Mastering the Fears Within You and Creating Your Freedom, Anyway
- Rachelle Innocent
- 2 days ago
- 3 min read
Fear is pervasive.
Whether it is our own fear or managing the fears of those around us, it’s hard to get through a day without feeling confronted by fear.
What are some ways we might manage our own fear, and the fears of those around us, so that we are informed but not ruled by these often disruptive emotions?
Fear carries a wisdom we stand to benefit from, if we learn the practice of moderating the influence of the things that scare us.
Fear of the Unknown
Many people struggle with the role that uncertainty plays in their life.
Holding onto the fallacy that leaves them trapped by the need to control, rather than liberated in the knowledge that we have always existed in great lack of it.
I have learned to accept that there are outcomes that might be within reach, though exist firmly beyond my realm of control. I do not chase the things that I know I have a better opportunity attracting into my life. I understand that while I may not know the path ahead, I trust that each experience is a stepping stone in the discovery of what will and will not serve me.
There is wonder in uncertainty that is inviting.
Choose to lean into this idea that we can be the master of our actions, focusing on aligning to the behaviours that lend to our achieving those much desired outcomes.
Finding a presence in the darkness of the unknown, and acknowledging that you’ve navigated in this journey called life in this perpetual blindness all along.
Fear of Success… Fear of Failure
Two sides of the same coin.
Whether it is the painful lessons that failures generously offer, or the violent tides of change that success can bring, the certainty of change can be daunting.
Nothing stays the same.
Whether we are standing still or pushing towards your version of a desired reality, we feel the constancy of change shifting the ground beneath our feet.
There may be much that we can criticize in the familiarity that surrounds us, but at least it is ours. We cling to what we know, hoping though all the while knowing, that clinging to the present won’t keep the future from arriving right on time.
The past a reminder that familiarity fades and life is in constant motion, indifferent to your sense of readiness for what tomorrow brings.
Fear of success, and the fear of failure, both a byproduct of the nostalgia we feel towards the familiar we will inevitably abandon for an unknown chapter in our journey we never feel prepared for.
Mourn the present for the past it will become while embracing the future that will arrive with and without your welcome… There really is, and has never been, nothing to fear.
Embracing the Courage to Change
Life does not offer stillness.
We are growing or fading, choice by choice, depending on if we choose to live with courage or to allow ourselves to be crippled by the fears that consume us.
We face ourselves when we face our fears, we take the chance we always deserved when we make that effort and try. Unlearning weariness and exchanging it for wonder. Recognizing that we do not abandon safety by stepping into adventure.
This is life… it starts and ends the same for each one of us.
That said, we can make the most of that in between time… be intentional about the blank pages still left in our history. Authoring a story that reflects the beauty and light found when you chose to live.
Make the choice to feel, to explore, to experience… without fear.
We each have within us the courage not only to change, but to embrace the change that shapes us.
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