On Beginnings and On Endings: Let's Focus on Growth and Embracing Our Becoming

Focusing on growth, gives you an opportunity to reintroduce yourself.

People who have sworn to know you, will have to at some point acknowledge the change in you.

While many discount the extent that life experiences can influence change in the people they know, we all have personally experienced this transformation at some level.

Most can speak to those moments that left them forever changed, from one day to the next. Yet often, it is those who are closest to us who discount the shift that comes with our personal evolution.

Due to the fact that the majority of us assume that proximity means presence, but we all recognize that proximity has nothing to do with being mindful, attentive, and intentional.

It is only presence that dictates the extent that we are aware, attuned, and cognizant of the changes that our loved ones experience. As well as to the extent we chose to honour those experiences with them, as an active bystander in the unfolding of their personal histories.

There is something unspoken about someone choosing to witness and participate in the growth of the people in their lives. Mostly because most of us are on auto-pilot, and are used to interacting with people who are themselves mindlessly going through the motions. To feel seen, when most people are closed to the world around them, is a privilege not many people can relate to.

Yet, life will make its mark and this change will shape each of our becoming. We are all shaped by the myriads of positive and negative experiences we encounter in our day-to-day lives. 

Though few of us are present enough, or intentional enough, to choose to change for the better, no matter the worse.

While growth is non-linear, the general direction is always something that any of us have the ability to decide. We can choose alignment, ascension, and we can always choose to be better than what circumstance has provisioned for our lives.

We define our growth. It's ours to celebrate and to commemorate

In the hardest of times, we can endure as a means of honouring the future version of ourselves who will thank us for this sacrifice. That future version of ourselves who thanks us for choosing to rise above resentment, mend what was hurt, and focus on a horizon that held space for the version of ourselves we had always been destined to become.

In the best of times, we can take a moment and pay homage to what growth has made of us. In a moment of personal recognition and humility, recognize the parts of ourselves that we had to let go of, to make room for the new and developing traits in self that were meant to serve us.

In alignment, we focus on moving forward while showing ourselves grace for the pitfalls we never saw, and for the memories we never wanted.

This growth is shaped in those who chose guts over glory, who embraced the unknown and fought against impossible odds. Growth is reserved to those who rose above the hurdles meant to tear them apart and bring them down.

Growth teaches us to embrace the tears and accept the loss.

To say our goodbyes, closing chapters on the people, places, and situations that we have outgrown, outlasted, and in some cases overcome.

At the juxtaposition between endings and beginnings, there is this perpetual state of becoming, fuelled by growth and ignited by purpose… The common thread in paths that are otherwise very personal to each of us.

Embrace the growth that is becoming, let go of what is too heavy to hold onto, recognizing that there will be a time in your life where you will recognize that even the worst of what you have been through… always came to serve you.

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