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The Fallacy of Familiarity - Taking a Chance on Your Potential

Updated: Aug 28, 2022


There are few things we fear most.

We cringe at the thought of navigating through the unknown.

Especially, when it involves taking a chance on ourselves.

We feel unsure, ambivalent.

Discreetly, we entertain hopes, hidden ambitions, that bridge the gap between who we are now, and who we stand to become beyond that daunting leap of faith.

Then, we wake up.

We brush off our dreams, once again, and focus on reality.

We’ve weighed the pros and cons, a million and one times, realism never seems to be on our side.

Unfortunately, trying to be matter-of-fact fails to extinguish the hidden ambitions, the dreams, that resurface in quiet moments, disrupting the illusion that we are content with what is.

Part of growing up is being realistic. Prioritizing the responsibilities that require our attention, right now. Obligations carry weight. Life, as it is currently, requires that we put our dreams on hold… at least for now. At least for the foreseeable future…

So we tell ourselves.

This one life, we each have, “rightfully” hindered by responsibility and obligation.

We make the argument, quite convincingly, that it’s better to live a life avoiding the risks that come with reaching too high, and the risks that come with wanting too much.

We tell ourselves, it is better to live within the confines of safety and security, than subject ourselves to a life of uncertainty.

Our lives revolve around keeping the boat steady.

Safeguarding ourselves from the possibility that our efforts prove insufficient, the possibility that even if we gave it our all, we might still fail to actualize what matters most.

So, we allow ourselves to be persuaded that our dreams are safely preserved within the confines of our imagination.

Not recognizing the error in our logic and justifications…

Avoiding the simple truth that we only ever risk failing ourselves, when we rob ourselves of the opportunity of trying.

It’s not that I don’t want to try!? I do! I’m just waiting for the perfect moment, and I want to make sure that I position myself for success. Whatever happened to, “All good things come to those who wait?” Humph!?

I agree.

Though, waiting for results on actions taken, is very different from waiting to make the first step, in a direction that is truly meaningful to you.

There will never be a “perfect” time.

A perfect plan, well thought of and meticulously put together, does not stand a chance against a future that is unwaveringly unforeseeable.

So - we each make a choice.

We can choose to spend our days fluctuating at the prospect of living a life feeling hopeful, or we can choose to live a life feeling haunted.

Hopeful as we build toward our dreams, as out of reach as they may seem…

Or haunted, as we our lives day-by-day, choking down the regret that grows each time we abandon the possibility of what our lives could potentially become, for what it is we know for certain.

There are no guarantees in life, so when you have a chance, take a chance, on yourself.

Be the one that makes your dreams come true.


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