We are all healing from something.
Healing requires adapting. We need to focalize on finding purpose in our pain.
Sometimes it’s hard for us to recognize when it is the case that we need to adapt. Specifically, to hold space for our emotional wounds and give them the adequate time and treatment to heal.
Both are required.
Just as we wouldn’t expect a broken foot to set properly on its own before awaiting the 6-8 week path to recovery, we shouldn’t expect that our emotional wounds will magically resolve on their own.
We need care.
We need an opportunity to level-set, recalibrate, and to reset as we figure out the best way forward.
There are this moments where we have a memory about an experience long past. Yet in that instant, the emotions come flooding back. We remember the people, the circumstances, and our own mental, emotional, and physiological state-of-being. We are transported back, through time and space, and it catches our breath.
But we push the memory down and move forward.
Or, maybe we talk it through with a friend or a professional, but the feeling itself persists.
It needs to be addressed.
Not by anyone other than you, and not through the mental gymnastics that we course through. Buying into the fallacy that understanding and sorting through our emotions brings us any closer to healing the wounds of our past.
It’s in feeling them.
Learning to call each emotion by name, and developing the courage to sit in the;
Not only giving ourselves the time to experience our big emotions, but more intentionally, to hold space for them.
Acknowledging each emotion for what it is, and giving ourselves permission to feel our feelings, without judgment, without criticism, and without a time crunch. Give yourself the gift in releasing each emotion.
Learn to recognize that it is a cue to heal, each time those painful memories rise to the surface.
To practice stillness... and allow the emotions to wash over you.
So we do the brave thing. We give ourselves the space to lean into the emotions that call to our attention. Those moments and memories that rise to the surface and break our concentration. We can give ourselves the grace to let go, rather than add to our injury in holding on. Recognize that we have the power to claim the healing that we're entitled to.
Emotion is energy in motion.
To few of us are disconnected from our body’s wisdom.
So we overlook our body's disposition when signalling that it’s time to release.
When it’s time to lean in.
Not through intellectualizing our emotions, but living in the state of our emotionality.
From each emotional state holding space for our emotions with the intention to push towards resetting, re-centring, and finding healing and restoration.
We knew how to heal our mental, psychological and emotional states long before psychology became a serious school of study.
We need to talk less about how we feel less, and feel more of what we’re feeling.
Without shame.
Without doubt.
Without blame.
Give yourself the gift of knowing that you have always been stronger than the circumstances you’re healing from.
Lean into the idea that we are each more powerful than we could imagine.
Give yourself permission to find purpose in your pain.
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